His child was sent to school like any other normal day when his teacher noticed marks on his bottom. Allegedly the child had stated that, he had been giving a spanking the night before. Minutes later his parents were notified of the situation in which his father replied, I spanked his butt out of love, I dont want him act out in school or to think its ok to talk to parents like that .
According to Colorados Criminal Code, child abuse is defined as when a person acts with knowledge or recklessly and the child results in any injury. But with a law so broad, it can also overrule the way couples choose to scold their kids. If this is so when it comes to discipline the same should apply in the schools. Discipline of the same sort in the home or in the schools both imply the same thing. Even though corporal punishment is legal in nineteen schools I feel as though if its already being enforced in the homes of the students thats where the line should be drawn.
In the book, Beating the Devil out of them: Corporal Punishment in American Families and its effect on children, Murray A. Straus, one of the worlds leading researchers on family violence, discusses the extent to which parents in the united states use corporal punishment (such as spanking and slapping) and its effects on their children based on the studies of 9,000 families. Straus, states that the phrase pain, but not injury helps to distinguish corporal punishment from the physical abuse: our subject is socially acceptable and legal corporal punishment.
He also implies that the phrase with the intention of causing a child to experience pain could mean anything that causes pain, such as sterilizing a scrape. The most focal forms of corporal punishment are acts that require more than enough force to move the child. Using objects may lean more to the physical abuse than to corporal punishment. Physical punishment can easily be more abrupt and tiptoe along the lines of abuse and serious bodily harm, when a particular object is used. The use of corporal punishment in children may also results in depression as adults.
Depression is when a person responds to things that occurred to them as a child when theyre older. As a child when you are physically abused it may take a while for you to respond to them, so once you grow older the delayed reaction because a suppression. When the mind suppresses it remembers events of unacceptable things, thoughts or memories from the mind. When the mind relapses on such things it may cause a person to feel alone. Children become emotionally detached from parents who have hit them. This type of things may also bring forth thoughts of suicide.
After being a product of corporal punishment kids start to think who can they tell about the situation when the person that is doing the hitting is the one of authority. Males that were hit as teenagers have a twenty-three higher chance of depression as for women there is a eighteen percent difference. Especially as parents because theyre the ones to nurture kids and protect them thats when they start to think otherwise. When one feels like they have no one else to turn to they become outcast, no friends, they just want to be to themselves.
But depression can make your mind think things that are ok are really not. Depression of this sort can be contributed by the aggression from hands of their parents. Another result of corporal punishment could be that the child may grow up thinking that violence and love go hand in hand. Thus, meaning that if you love them that it is ok to cause physical violence among oneself. Since the parents proclaim to administer spankings to a child out of love when they grow up as adults they begin to think that abusive relationships are ok.
Corporal violence also teaches that violence is an acceptable solution to frustration and anger involving people. Research shows that children who were abused will become more defiant in the future. As they enter the adult stage of life they become violent, destructive and also a threat to society as well as others around them. Effective types of discipline such as, talking to the child and addressing the problem, letting them know what the issue at hand is, and taking away things; like toys, video games and things us such may teach self control, guidance and also molding.
When scolding a child telling them what is and what may not be acceptable could pretty much be enough. A simple raising of the voice or distraction when it comes to infants may also be effective. As parents one must think before they react, be sure of the approach you take when handling kids. In conclusion, Corporal punishment is an effective form of discipline to a certain extent. Somewhere between the line of discipline and abuse there is indeed a thin line. Anything can cause pain but not injury. There are other methods of discipline that may be used when it comes to children.
Using physical force is not always the answer. Talking to a child, pointing out their mistakes, letting them know what is acceptable and what isnt may help a great deal. Sometimes hitting a child may cause them to rebel and want to act out. Physical abuse may lead to all types of difficulties when children reach their adult lives. Things that happen as a child are always in a childs mind. By saying with love , children may think that love involves violence because thats what the mother or father has instilled in them as kids. Works Cited